Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Rating



Life is overrated.
We know death comes sooner or later.
That's actuality the only thing we know about life.
Eternity is underrated.
How and where to spend it.
Choice.
We have a choice, what a frightful gift.

The value of health is so underrated.
"Well, I don't care, as long as I have my health,
How often have I not heard people say that.
As if health is a human privilege, not even worth valuing.
"I am modest, I only crave my good health"...
"I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, as long as it's healthy."
And what do you do if it's not?
Return it as damaged goods?

The Bible strongly warn us against making vows.
Our politician do nothing but shower us with promises.
"I promise to love you all of my life."
How do you know if you can keep such an immense vow?

I have promised never to send my mother to a retirement home of any kind.
Now she wants to move of her own free will. She even filled out the application form herself.
Nevertheless I feel like a betrayer.
I've fought so hard for so long. Nine years have passed since the struggle started.
Never ever give any pledges.
Vows are definitely overrated.


Ecclesiastes 12:8 Vanity of vanities, saith Koheleth; all is vanity.

14 comments:

Andrea said...

It is very admirable you want to keep your mother in your home, and God will reward you. If she insists on leaving, tell her that she can come back any time (and she might take you up on that!) In the meantime, you can pray...maybe there will be no openings in a home for her to go. But, on your part, your vow is still good, you have not broken it...If my mom was living, I would feel the same as you...I feel it is Biblical to care for our parents. love,andrea

Maria Stahl said...

You did your part, sweetie. You have been a very loving and faithful daughter, and that is not going to change.

You are right though: Vows should be entered into only with the greatest of care.

Terry said...

dear felisol, it takes a deep love on your part to allow mom ljung to go into a retirement home..i know that when we were still young and in such good health, we vowed,[betty and john and bernie and me] that mom golden would never have to go into a nursing home and we really did mean it, but now we are all four in such bad health that we never could manage for her and dad golden to be living in our homes...we have done the next best thing by visiting them every evening because in welland we are only a couple of miles away...it is easy to make their meals and vacuum and clean their place and visit a few hours every day.
you and gunnar and kel have driven hundreds of miles the last year to do all you can for your sweet mother and i know that she realizes this felisol...i think that in love, she has decided on her own to do this great thing and i think that you have no need to feel a bit guilty..mom ljung is willing to walk into the open door that surely the lord has opened for her!...i love you guys...you are the best...love terry

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Trish said...

Dear Felisol... Guilt is an overwhelming emotion, one that can cause us much stress and turmoil. You have been a loving and wonderful daughter. Please know that I am praying my friend.
Big hugs,
trish

Annie said...

Dearest Elise,

You have been a faithful and loving daughter who has given her the great gift of love and care and support. Now your mother is giving you a great gift, the gift of peace of mind.

Love yourself as you love her and you will continue to have each other for a long time.

Love,
Annie

Amrita said...

Dear Felisol, you are such a faithful, loving and caring daughter. You and your family have loved Monten so well. May God' s will be done.
I have served several of my elders at home I know what its like.

The wisdon lesson you shared here come from suffering and first hand experience. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

John Cowart said...

Your Mother sounds like such a wise woman. She's got style.

Debbie said...

You have such a kind heart so I'm sure this is very difficult for you. It sounds like your mom is trying to ease the burden for you. Your love for your mom always shines through any time you write about her.

My husband's mom wants to remain in her own home despite being in her late 80's. That is one of the reasons we are moving again; to be less than one mile from her house.

Vows can be difficult to keep. As far as marriage is concerned, I believe that love is a choice. Commitment to one's spouse is something that people today don't take as seriously. My husband and I are married 27 years and it hasn't always been easy. But we love one another and work at it.

So sorry that you are having to go through this challenge with your mom. I will pray for you my friend.

Love,
Debbie

Saija said...

(hugs) ... and prayers ...

❀~Myrna~❀ said...

I have lived long enough to never say never , because so many times I have found myself doing that very thing.
I believe you have been faithful and loving to your mother and you will continue to be. So many things are beyond our control but we know the one who is in control . God loves and cares for us all. I am praying for you, your family & your mother. Thank you for your prayers .

❀~Myrna~❀ said...

I have lived long enough to never say never , because so many times I have found myself doing that very thing.
I believe you have been faithful and loving to your mother and you will continue to be. So many things are beyond our control but we know the one who is in control . God loves and cares for us all. I am praying for you, your family & your mother. Thank you for your prayers .

Mrs. Mac said...

Your mom is still fit and in her right mind if she filled out the forms herself. To everything there is a season .. and a purpose. You have been and still are her beloved daughter .. let her fly. Being in the home might make her feel more secure in her unsteady world. I love you my sister.

Vicki @ Light for the Creative Soul said...

You are such a loving daughter, my dear Felisol, but perhaps in this case, to honor your mother, you can honor the choice she's made. Don't feel guilty. All is grace. I am praying...and thank you so much for your tender words on my blog recently. You are full of love and compassion and it's clear you love your mother. God sees your heart.